あまりに長く恋愛関係にとどまっている人を見ると、ほぼ必ず顕在化を避けてきた問題が、最終的に別れるときにすべて表に噴き出す。
When I look at people who have been in a long-term romantic relationship, I feel its almost certain that the issues they avoided and kept hidden will eventually explode when they break up.
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We tend to focus on recent events—like what triggered things, what was fatal, or what delivered the final blow—and these can seem like the ultimate moments of truth in the end of a relationship. But the real truth actually lies elsewhere.
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本能のようなものが「これは違う」と告げていたのに「より良い感情」という名のものの実態は「留まる方が安全であるかもしれない」という認識だった年月だ。
Even if your instincts told you, This isnt right, the true nature of what we call better feelings was actually the perception that it might be safer to stay here.
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Its not because they cant reason, nor because they lack analytical ability or intelligence.
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People do not stay in unfulfilling relationships because they lack reason.
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Simply because we are ordinary humans, why do we try to cling to places or states where there is no longer any novelty or growth? What is the true role of attachment and fear? How is personal identity involved? And what kinds of stories have we told ourselves in order to accept the cost of maintaining the status quo...? How should we explain and overcome these things, which everyone has experienced to some extent?
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I would like to examine the psychological facts proven by research on why people try to maintain romantic relationships more than necessary from the following three perspectives.
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